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Hi darlings!

Today I’m going to be talking about insecurities and how to overcome them as millennials.

I know, my last post was on something ‘motivational’ , I guess I’m on a roll here 💁🏽

TED TALK, HERE I COME ? 

Living in the millennial era, it’s all about social media and especially the different perspectives on what ‘perfect’ should look like.There is a big pressure to be “perfect”, despite obvious flaws.

Insecurities are a part of us and whether we want to show it or not, we all have them.We want to show that we are doing good at all times and are afraid to show emotions (this is me for sure ) because it is perceived as a sign of weakness.

Here’s how to deal with insecurities as a millennial : 

#ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE AS A PERSON 

Acceptance is the first step towards recovery. I know, it sounds like you’re in an “AA” session but it’s true.

When I started accepting the things I couldn’t change about myself, I started living an easier life. Your nose is too big, so what? You’re not at an optimal height, sooooooo????? You’ve got a big scar? Wear it proudly as the hero that you are, you survived something that resulted to that scar. 

Once you accept your insecurities, trust me, no one can use them against you.

#COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY 

Yes my loves, do not compare yourself with anyone. Everyone is on their own path and on different wavelengths in life. You can’t expect what is working for someone else to work for you. I learnt this the hard way last year when I kept comparing myself with my mates who graduated high school with me. I had to come to terms with the fact that even if we all finished high school together, it is not a guarantee that we will all finish the next part of our lives at the same pace. That was just high school, it was a structured system, that’s why we could all finish together. Catch my drift? 

#NO PRESSURE 

After acceptance comes change, that’s where no pressure comes in. Work on the parts you can change but don’t add pressure on yourself, increased pressure only makes it harder to achieve a healthier result. Do not rush the process of change, do it at your own pace.

#BE YOURSELF, FORGET THE REST

Finally loves, the best version of yourself is YOU. Be you, and forget the rest. Remember, everyone will always have a different perception of you. So the best thing to do is be yourself and you’ll see that those who love you genuinely, will love you regardless of anything you have going on with you.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” – Marianne Williamson

How do you overcome insecurity?


 Love & Light,

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65 replies on “MOTIVATION | OVERCOMING INSECURITIES IN 2017

  1. WOW Ash! Your post is very inspiring! So true that Comparison is the thief of joy as I realize that I do enjoy comparing with others and got unhappy with myself as a result because I feel that I’m just not good enough. It is important for us to accept the things we cannot change too but try to be the best version of ourselves all the time so that we can live life fully 😉 Thanks for sharing – your post shed some light to my existing problem. Perhaps I should start shifting my mindset in order to pursue happiness 🙂

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  2. Love this! I definitely needed it. I think my greatest weakness is comparison. That quote is one of my favorites. I’m trying everyday to focus on myself and not worry about what others are doing.

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  3. Great piece.
    I still deal with insecurity everyday, that’s why I created Lipglossmaffia, she is a strong independent sassy lady and she really helps Amyn a lot.

    p.s For some strange reason, I don’t get email alerts from the blog anymore and it shows i’m still following you.

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    1. Aww that is so great, lipglossmaffia is truly incredible and amazing!
      And yeah, i have been getting similar complaints, i really dont know whats up with wordpress but i hope i fix it soon. Thanks girl. x

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  4. “Living in the millennial era, it’s all about social media and especially the different perspectives on what ‘perfect’ should look like” — I couldn’t agree with this more. This post is super inspiring. With the rise of social media and “instagram perfect models” it can feel nearly impossible to feel like you are enough and beautiful just the way you are. Great post

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  5. This is a nice post! I am much older than you and I think as you grow older you care a little less of what others think. There goes a big source of insecurity. Most people do not accept themselves because they pay too much attention to what others think. I am in a phase of my life where I litterally don’t give s*it about what others think. But I encounter the paradox that other people have a problem with the fact that I have come to accept myself as I am!!! Yeah, it’s a complicated era.

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    1. So true,as we get older our priorities begin to change and the things we used to care about when we were younger just dont seem to faze us anymore. Thank you for reading as always. xx

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  6. First of all, I really really love your blue hair! That color makes me think of a tv show I used to watch when I was a little girl!
    Second thing, you’re totally right. Comparison will eat you alive and we should not allow that!

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