Tinder is the one place I never thought I could openly say I joined. Mostly because, as we all know & most probably have presumed, tinder is where you go to hook up with random people, its for the lonely & sad people and most of all, you can never build a great relationship from this site.
Well I wasn’t about to jump into those conclusions without trying it out myself.
As a single lady who just moved into a new city, I thought, why the heck not? I signed up, selected my good enough pictures and got to swiping.
My thoughts while swiping were : As long as they don’t look like a serial killer, its all good.
I had a few matches within the first few minutes, and after about an hour, I set up my first date. Boy was I nervous. I started thinking of all the possibilities where this could go wrong and I can say I had a mini heart attack.
Remember in this post? How I take at least an hour to get ready? – well I took two.
I even thought of cancelling, but the non-quitter in me pushed me further. Great thing was that we were meeting for drinks so I didn’t have to worry about losing an appetite.
We met at a great wine bar and immediately got to talking. I thought to myself, wow this isn’t so bad ; why was I panicking so much?
We talked a lot about his culture (he is from Hungary, by the way) and I got to discover new information about Hungary and even Budapest trip hacks and all of that.
After a few hours – I could say that the date lasted about 4 hours -, I was exhausted and had to head home. He paid for the drinks and I was dreading the age long question I read that most guys from tinder would ask : “Would you love to head back to my place?”
AND HE DIDN’T ASK!!!
I tell y’all, I was pleasantly surprised. Not only was he a gentle man, he was friendly, we had a proper conversation and a generally good night.
So this is me saying to you that you should not knock anything till you try. I’m not saying you won’t have bad experiences though, but you’ll never know if you don’t take the risk.