The Ultimate Guide To Giving Wedding Gifts – How? When? Do We Give Cash?

Hi lovelies and happy new week!

Today, I have decided to share a few simple tips on how to gift a wedding couple.

Apart from the usual troubles of finding what to wear as a wedding guest, the most pressing questions that comes from weddings are usually what to & how to gift a couple.

Here’s a comprehensive guide on the do’s and don’ts of wedding gift giving 🙂


    A wedding registry, such as Zola, is a service provided by a website or retail store which assists engaged couples in the communication of gift preferences to wedding guests.

    Before the wedding, most couples usually sign up on this wedding registry and include a list of items they want on a wish list.  To help you with your gifting process, it’s best to buy from the registry. The couple spent time creating a list that will help them build their life together. However, if you prefer to buy something not listed, you should still check the registry to ensure you get something that will match their style.

2. GO TRADITIONAL BUT STAY ORGANIZED -Group similar items together 

Traditional wedding gifts include essentials for the kitchen, bath, dinning, bedding and even interior decor stuff! Now, a great way to keep this organized is to group similar items together. For instance, kitchen utensils inside a mixing bowl is a good way to organize, and present these items.


In order for the couple to recognize who sent these gifts, you could add a personal touch to the gift. For instance, a hand written note or a signed cookbook, etc. would be nice and be considered more personal.


Now on to one of the most pressing questions of a gifting process : How much should I spend on the couple?

I’m always so confused as to how much to spend on the couple too, and this is why I was happy that the team at Zola helped break it down for us.

Here’s a spending guide you should be aiming for:

  • A great starting point : $50
  • Coworker and/or a distant family friend or relative: $50-$75
  • Relative or friend: $75-$100
  • Close relative or close friend: $100-$150
  • Urbanite: $150-200+

Apparently, attending weddings are not so cheap. Just remember to stay within your budget, if you cannot afford these expenses, a thoughtful note or personalized card is never too much!

5. BE CONSCIOUS (Timing & Stress) 

Timing is everything. With the convenience of online shopping, it shouldn’t be a problem to get the couple’s gifts within the first two months of the wedding. And although you’re really excited to present your gift, save the couple some stress by not bringing the large or major gifts to the wedding directly. In this way, no one has to worry about them getting lost on the way home. Having it shipped straight to them will save a lot of time and hassle. – However, if you still want to hand it in person, then you can deliver it to their home personally, before or after the wedding ceremony.


We may often ask ourselves, is cash right for them? In wedding registries like Zola, there’s the “traditional” type and the “modern wedding” type.  For traditional wedding registry type, a section is set up for mainly home items to help the new couple move in together.

But in the modern wedding registry type, a section with cash funds for a couple who already live together is available. This is where giving cash in a safe way may come in handy. Use the couple’s cash fund on the registry website so that you don’t have to worry about it getting misplaced.

Still wanna give directly? You can mail it to them. Not sure who to address the check to? Use the name of who you’re closest to – also, please, don’t assume that the bride is changing her last name! 


In the end, the MOST IMPORTANT THING you have to remember is not to sweat it. At the end of the day, weddings are more about the couple and their lifelong commitment to one another than wedding gifts.

With a registry like Zola, you can stick to the guide provided, and it will help you gift the lovely couple without stress.

Also, if you’re thinking of getting married soon (in the US), don’t forget to register with Zola, the wedding company that will do anything for love!



  1. I love the idea of grouping smaller gifts together! Sometimes I’ll do a “date night” gift: get the muffin tins and kitchen supplies off their registry with a muffin making kit, or a DVD and popcorn along with the blanket they registered for. It’s a cute way to make your gift memorable while giving exactly what they asked for.


  2. Here in Italy they don’t do wedding lists you’re just expected to give cash which I think is a shame as it takes all the sentimentality out of it. Love your ideas though


  3. This is such helpful compilation of the tips to plan a wedding gift. I like to personalize the gift and planning ahead the budget while keeping in mind the gift should be useful for the new couple.


  4. Some great tips-I always agonise over what to get people when they get married. This is the first summer I haven’t been to a wedding in years, but I have several next year so this is great!


  5. I have a wedding coming up soon, just had to check the blog again cause I thought I saw a post about it once. I’m glad it’s here, thanks for the tips


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