Motivation : How To Pick Yourself Up After A Failure 

Words by PatriciaBright / Edited by Ashley

If you’ve ever tried to do anything in life, it’s likely that you’ve dealt with failure at one time or another. Failure is a huge fear for many people, but it’s just one of those things that is a part of life and doesn’t have to be as daunting as we make it. I think it’s super important to know how to handle ourselves when things don’t work out like we planned.

Here are the things that have worked best for me when I’ve failed at something in the past…


The first thing you have to remember is to be kind to yourself. Everybody fails, and just because something didn’t work out doesn’t mean you are any less of a person. Beating yourself up and dwelling on what went wrong won’t help you take positive steps forward. You’ve got to be more gracious and understanding of yourself instead of constantly feeling under pressure and stressed. Stuff happens, but guess what? This is an opportunity for you to do better next time.


The key to coming back stronger after a failure is the learn from your mistakes. There’s no shame in failing, but if you don’t use it as an opportunity to grow and better yourself then you’re just going to keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Instead of putting yourself down for failing, take the time to look at the situation from an educational standpoint – what went wrong? What can you change in the future? How can you improve next time?


One thing I highly suggest after a huge failure is to give yourself a break. Take some time to step back from everything, clear your head, and get a fresh perspective. How much time away will be dependent on the person or the situation, but go with your gut. You’ll know if you need more time to refocus or if you’re ready to jump back in and try again.


Now that you’re ready to try again, make sure to give yourself a fresh start. Wipe the slate clean and don’t hold on to past mistakes. If you start over but keep dwelling on your failures, you’re never going to be able to move forward and create something better. You failed, it happened. Now it’s time to work even harder than before. Don’t sabotage your fresh start with worries of the past.


How have you dealt with past failures?


  1. this is so on point. i had a setback yesterday and naturally, i felt super down and upset at myself but decided to brush off my shoulder and move on. failures and setbacks are great lessons learned to show us how to move forward!


  2. Awww I love this, such a good motivational post! Definitely need this kind of messaging in my life sometimes. This is a toughy for sure!


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