Trying To Feel Festive (& Why It’s Okay If You Don’t) | The Ash Tree Journal

Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year. This is what I have grown up to know over and over again, in songs and in movies. Traditionally, it is a time of joy and happiness

the ash tree journal, feeling festive and why its okay if you do not

When you’re young, it’s very easy to get into the Christmas spirit and keep the excitement going but sadly, as we grow older, this magic seems to disappear and we realize that it just doesn’t work that way in the real world.

This year, I find it harder to feel the Christmas spirit as I am, as most people in the world are, dealing with a lot of stress that comes with life : for one, it’s winter, and although Christmas brings a lot of lovely things, it doesn’t make every problem disappear just because it’s December.

We’re surrounded by the idea that Christmas means happiness, and it can be very easy to feel like there’s something wrong with you if you don’t feel it too.

I’m not writing this to dwell on the negative (because quite frankly, I think that that’s what I’m beginning to sound like now) but, imagine how easy it is to feel the pressure to have the holiday spirit.

There is the pressure to watch Christmas movies on TV which practically forces you to have the warm fuzzies. Or to play holiday music for more than 5 minutes until you hear Michael Buble singing in your head when you turn it off.

But what if you just can’t feel it?

Then it is okay not to. I have come to terms with the fact that this year especially, I haven’t felt any holiday spirit. Right from Valentine’s Day to my birthday, and now, Christmas. I just don’t feel it.

So, if you’re like me that has been so fixated on finding that feeling and getting subsequent feelings of dissatisfaction and disappointment for not getting there, STOP. Stop Trying.

Remember that just because your Christmas doesn’t feel all sparkly and magical, does not mean that it isn’t or cannot be enjoyable.

It’s really not the end of the world if you don’t feel magical.

Do not use it as a time to sulk because you don’t feel “chrismassy”, instead use it as a time to make the effort to change your mood if you want to.

Don’t expect to be magically different, but take time to be kinder to yourself.

Do things that make you happy.

Spend time with the important people in your life and do extra special things, just for the sake of it.

Bake cookies, go to Christmas fairs, decorate, enjoy your time off!

the ash tree journal, feeling festive and why its okay if you do not

Whatever you do, dwelling on the fact that it’s Christmas and you are not as happy as you think you’d be will not make things better. Just use this time of the year to try to get through the season your own way and at your own pace.

Take care of yourself, there will be many more holidays to come!

Let love lead,




16 thoughts

  1. This is great! I feel like the holiday forces some people to feel festive and fake their joy, which is never fun for anyone!


  2. Reminding ourselves that’s it’s okay not to always be ‘on’ and in the mood to be festive is OKAY! Sometimes we need a break!


  3. loved reading this post – i felt similar this past year. the holiday season kind of snuck up on me and it was hard to feel festive all the time.


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