“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”Maria Robinson
August (and probably the past months on 2019) may have been terrible, but I am a big believer of choosing the way we control our future.
Sure, to some certain extent, there are things we cannot control. But how about working towards the ones we can?
September is a special month for me. I love it because it reminds me of new beginnings in many ways. For students, the new school year starts in September. A new season (fall) starts in September, and moreover, it’s the last quarter of the year. And, did you know that September is Self-Care Awareness Month too?
This period of Self–Care Awareness is a time to remind ourselves that taking care of ourselves, first and foremost, is essential.
Self-care is often neglected in our everyday lives. We tend to put others needs before our own when we know that it is vital to remember that we cannot fill someone else’s cup from our own empty vessel. While getting a massage or taking a walk are beautiful examples of taking time for our well-being, self-care can be more widespread than that.
Self-care knows no boundaries. It is something that everyone, without any omissions, can benefit from practising on a daily basis. True self-care is not self-centred nor selfish; it is simply keeping yourself the focus of your own life. It’s about paying attention to how you feel in each moment, communicating clearly, speaking up for yourself and saying yes or no…guilt free.
So, how do you self care?
For many of us, stress is a big part of our everyday life. So much so that now we even glorify how stressed out we are, as if the more stress we go through determines the productivity of our daily activities.
How then do we de-stress? Its simply eliminating a big or even small parts of our day to day activities that increase our stress. Do you know that if you took out at least 30 mins each day to simply breathe, it would reduce stress by at least 20%? (not scientifically proven)
Part of self-care involves putting ourselves first. And if that means not pleasing people anymore, then we are making progress. Learning to say no is something we can all learn to adapt.
It’s ok to say no if you don’t want or aren’t able to do something at the moment. Taking on too many commitments, especially to please people, can put extra pressure on yourself and cause more stress.
Be kind to others
It is usually said that : the way you think about and treat others is often the way you think about and treat yourself.Tweet
As part of your self-care, you can choose to be kinder towards others. With time, become kinder and more understanding towards yourself too. For example, a good act of kindness that always makes me feel good is paying it forward:
Why should you pay it forward?
You feel better about yourself because you‘re trying to make everyone’s lives better, especially your own. Others trust you more readily and take you into their confidence when they see you paying it forward. They respect you more because they have less reason to doubt you. Paying it forward erases ego.
For me, it can be as simple as paying for the next customer on a queue in a coffee shop. This usually makes them feel good and I go about my day knowing I have made someone smile that day. Other simple acts of kindness include letting someone into your lane while driving. Encouraging a friend or a family member when they are uncertain or unmotivated. Or just being there to listen to someone vent.
One of the best things in life is taking care of yourself and enjoying it! Taking care of yourself isn’t being selfish, it is crucial for balance.
Hopefully, this blog post encourages you to take some “me time” throughout this month and do daily self-care while having a little fun taking care of you!